Based on a recent experience with regard to dating, I've come up with an interesting theory. I feel privileged that I've been able to do some self-reflecting and learn from my past relationship and dating experiences. It takes a lot to confront yourself honestly about your own behavior and what your contribution to relationship difficulties truly was. From that confrontation I began to recognize patterns of my own behavior - I could see that I was acting certain ways in response to various "signals" from women (whether they were real signals or not).
So here's my theory - maybe the way to recognize whether someone is "the one" is by analyzing your past behavior, and seeing what you're not doing in your relationship with this new person. The more those past behaviors don't seem to exist, the more likely he or she is the right one for you.
Of course, I could be totally wrong, but it just seems like this is the best explanation I can come up with. At any rate, I have a new girlfriend... let's hope this one lasts :).
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